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When Family Fails: A Single Mother's Journey of Sacrifice and Betrayal

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Dear Spectrum Mommy,

I feel a deep ache in my heart as I write this, reflecting on the years of my life devoted to supporting my family. As a single mother, I took on the responsibility of helping my two siblings through their education and job searches, even sponsoring them to move to Singapore for better opportunities. It wasn't easy, but I believed in the importance of family and their future.

However, now, as I struggle to afford therapies and school for my five-year-old son with autism, the reality of my sacrifices hits me hard. I reached out to my siblings and parents for temporary financial help, thinking they would understand my plight. To my dismay, they all refused, claiming they had no money to spare. The pain of their rejection stings deeply, especially after all I had done for them.

The betrayal I feel is magnified by my mother's refusal to take care of my son so that I could return to work abroad. Her decision leaves me feeling stranded and helpless.

I regret not saving more for myself and my child, realizing now how naive I was to trust that my family would reciprocate my support when I needed it most.

This experience has left me disheartened and questioning the meaning of family. The lack of support from those I once helped so much is a heavy burden to bear. All I can do now is focus on finding a way to provide for my son and ensure he gets the care he needs, despite the challenges we face.


Dear Cathy,

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I can feel the depth of your frustration and pain through your words. The sacrifices you've made for your siblings are extraordinary, and it's incredibly unfair that you're now facing such a difficult situation without their support.

It's disheartening when the people we expect to be there for us, especially family, let us down. Your devotion to your family and the immense love you have for your son are evident, and it’s heartbreaking to see you struggle without the help you so clearly deserve.

It's important to acknowledge your feelings of betrayal and hurt. They are valid and real. Allow yourself the space to grieve and process these emotions. At the same time, remember that you are an incredibly strong and resilient person. The love and dedication you've shown to your family and your son are testaments to your strength.

As you navigate this challenging time, please try to focus on what you can control. Seek out local resources, support groups, and organizations that can offer assistance for your son’s needs. Sometimes, the support we need comes from unexpected places.

You are not alone in this journey, and your courage to share your story is inspiring. Keep moving forward, one step at a time.


Spectrum Mommy

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