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From my Mother's Lens to my Kids' Gaze


from my mother's lens

As the sun peeked through the curtains, I began another day in the whirlwind of my life. Ana, that’s me, a mother blessed with two wonderful children. A boy in sixth grade, brimming with curiosity and a spark for life, and a sweet little girl in kindergarten, who sees the world in colors and patterns unique to her.


Life for us was a juggling act. I held a job that provided for us, a blessing indeed, but time was the elusive currency I often found myself short of. Despite my best intentions, preparing a wholesome meal was a luxury we couldn’t always afford amidst the chaos of schedules and responsibilities.


Then came my lifeline, or so I thought. My mother offered to take care of my eldest. Relief washed over me like a soothing balm. Finally, a helping hand to ease the burden, or so I believed.


But life has a way of throwing curveballs, doesn’t it? The help I so gratefully accepted soon became a source of turmoil. One morning, as I rushed through the motions of our morning routine, my eldest refused to budge from bed, adamant about not going to school.


My mother, who was helping out, expressed her frustration at his stubbornness. But her words cut deep when she insensitively remarked that he didn’t belong in his current school because he is also autistic.


My own mother had planted seeds of doubt and insecurity in my child’s impressionable mind. Words uttered in haste and ignorance, poisoning the innocence of youth. My heart was shattered. Using my other child’s condition as a punchline only adds salt to the wound.


I made an effort to avoid confrontation. However, a few days later, I overheard my mom discussing with her friends that I struggle to manage my kids and that my kids are hopeless. This is me from my mother's lens. Not only is this unnecessary, but I firmly believe such matters should be kept private within our family circle.


In the aftermath of the storm, I found solace in the embrace of my children. In their laughter and their tears, I discovered the true measure of my worth as a mother. For in their eyes, I am enough, flaws and all.


And so, I carry on, navigating the labyrinth of motherhood with a newfound strength born of adversity. With each passing day, I learn to embrace the imperfections that make us human, for it is within these flaws that the beauty of our journey lies.


 

Dear Ana,


Thanks for sharing your story. It's heart-wrenching to hear how family dynamics can sometimes blur boundaries and cause such emotional turmoil.


Your story emphasizes the delicate balance between accepting help graciously and asserting boundaries when necessary. It's a powerful reminder of the strength found in knowing when to say no, even amidst the pressures of familial expectations.


As Brené Brown beautifully articulates, "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." Your journey reflects this courage and self-love, demonstrating the transformative power of asserting boundaries for personal well-being.


If you'd like to contribute your story, please message me. Your voice matters.


Love,


Spectrum Mommy


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